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Reflections on Parenting

In Field Notes on 6 January 2014 at 4:02 am

As a participant-observer in the parenting tribe, Rushabh Mehta from Mumbai reflects on his three years’ experience as Poppy to his daughter Kavya. 

Kavya and her Poppy

Kavya and her Poppy

Kavya is already three. For first time parents, there is always a feeling that there was an era before parenthood and after parenthood. Before parenthood, life is much simpler. With a child around, the amount of activities suddenly explodes.  Also if you are someone who is not used to anticipating and planning, you can quickly get behind the task list, that just keeps on extending. Read the rest of this entry »


In Poems on 5 January 2014 at 11:55 am

Following my meditation on the implied reader of the if-then statements proposed in Dorothy Law’s poem Children Learn What They Live, I recognized that the doubt I encountered as a child, peering into the gap between the apparently interlocked puzzle pieces reached to the heart of inference itself. 

Only much later I found my kindred spirit while reading Wittgenstein’s Philosophical Investigations.   Read the rest of this entry »

Children Learn What They Live

In Poems on 29 December 2013 at 4:06 am

Dorothy L LawIn 2014 it will be 60 years since the poem “Children Learn what they Live” appeared in the Torrance Herald, a local newspaper (tell the kids what a local newspaper is).   The author, Dorothy Louise Law, a “counselor, lecturer, instructor in family life education,” wrote an advice column in the paper.

Growing up, I used to pause before a small paper posted our refrigerator.  The title was “Children Learn What They Live.”   Never wondering who wrote it or how it got there, I used to ponder some of its logical propositions.   Read the rest of this entry »

Anger management for a toddler?

In What on 9 August 2013 at 6:39 pm

I want to figure out how to react to anger outbursts. Our daughter is known to have at least one of these in a day — getting angry over something seemingly minor and inconsequential (admittedly from an adult perspective).

Like yesterday, while I was browsing an IKEA catalog sitting next to her, she spotted a picture of her bed in there and took the book from my hand. After a while I requested it back and began flipping, but soon realized that she got angry at me for losing the page where her bed was. Before I knew it, she was flinging her toy tray at me. Later she repeated the act once again with the tray and then with the catalog itself. Her anger at me losing the page sustained for a good 15 minutes or so even after letting her calmly know that it was unacceptable for her to behave that way, and changing setting etc. Read the rest of this entry »

What is here is not there

In Wit on 7 August 2013 at 8:00 pm

Verse by Krishna, in disguise as an old man, when visited by Ghatotkacha in Telugu film Maya Bazaar (1957)

chiranjeeva chiranjeeva sukhi bhava sukhi bava
eruga kunda vachavu eruka leka potavu
idi vedam ide vedam, idi vedam ide vedam
atu unnadi, itu ledu
itu unnadi atu ledu
idi vedam, ide vedam
chiranjeeva chiranjeeva sukhi bhava sukhi bhava

china chepanu peda chepa
china maayanu penu maya
adi swaaha idi swaha
atu nene……, itu nene……..
atu nene, itu nene
chiranjiva chiranjeeva sukhi bhava sukhi bhava

Krishna, disguised an old man, addresses Ghatotkacha

Krishna, disguised an old man, addresses Ghatotkacha

May you live long and be happy, my child
You came  without knowing
You will go without knowing
This is the truth, this is the truth
What is here is not there
What is there is not here
Over the small illusion, the big illusion
Over the small fish, the big fish
This is swaha that is swaha
This swaha, that swaha
May you live long and be happy, my child

Note: “swaha” is a term meaning handling/disposing/tackling.  Above it conveys: small fish tackled by big fish, small illusion tackled by big illusion.  I think of it as also being engulfed by … small illusion engulfed by big illusion.

Am I academically fit to homeschool?

In Yes / No on 11 April 2012 at 4:36 pm

Do you think you need to be updated in academic subjects to homeschool your child?

– mother of a 2 year old in Pune

The short answer is: No. Many seasoned homeschoolers elaborate on why this is so, reminding you that:

– You are learning together.
– You are not so much teaching what you know as you are supporting their learning whatever they want to learn
– your children will learn how to learn, to delight as they discover, and to navigate the ocean of knowledge, not just acquire a subset of your knowledge.

When the rubber meets the road, however, doubts can creep in. Read the rest of this entry »

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